ZEN State of Mind!!!

ZEN State of Mind is a state where Mind is not attached with Mind. It’s precisely a state of “No-mindedness”.

What does it exactly mean?

It means having some time for ourselves where we are not indulged in the thoughts of the mind. Like is as if we don’t have a mind. It is not a religion; it is not a belief, and it certainly is not a piece of knowledge. It’s a practice. And trust me it works.

I agree, we can’t be like Monks, especially Zen monks who most of the time stay in a meditative state. But even for a while if we practice this then it’s going to work wonders.

There is the zen story: “Once a person asked to a Zen Monk, “What is Zen?” The monk quickly jotted the word “Awareness” on a piece of paper. A bit confused, the person compelled him a bit: “Could you elaborate & explain?” The Monk again wrote a second note: “Awareness Awareness.”

The person, now totally confused asked again. This time he pushed him to elaborate kit properly. However, he got the written response as “Awareness Awareness Awareness.” Totally frustrated & annoyed, the person literally yelled, “What the hell does Awareness Awareness Awareness mean?” Undaunted, undisturbed, the monk again penned “Awareness Awareness Awareness means Awareness.”

So precisely, Zen is nothing but being aware that “we have a mind & we need to be in a no-mind. Initially it doesn’t happen that way.

Our mind is like a river, thoughts flowing in it as water. Most of our life we drip ourselves wet in the mind. Once we are aware of that, we need to sit, not allowing ourselves in the flow. It’s not easy initially. But as I say, it’s a practice. Everyone has the knowledge. But knowledge without practice is nothing.

Once we sit for a while, we find that the swollen river recedes, with time though. Thoughts appear to be vanishing, slowly…not all though. Also there are hidden thoughts that come to our notice in the beginning.

However, with time, we fill like we have found an island in the river of mind. Eventually it starts looking like as if you have developed a beautiful place for yourself.

Zen state of mind is where we just allow our mind to relax and feel good. Initially it’s like channeling the thoughts in one direction. Or just thinking something beautiful. In this way at least for a while the “Chaos” of different thoughts takes a pause.  That’s why in any guided meditation they take your mind in to a trance.

Is doing Meditation mandatory to achieve ZEN state of mind?

The answer is No. Though, meditation is an important part of Zen, but you do not need to sit in a certain position or listen to certain meditation videos or all that stuff, always. You can achieve Zen mind state by finding your own meditation technique.

See, meditation is something that you do to clear your mind so you can have a fresh perspective of things. But everyone can have a different meditation technique.

If you want to live the Zen life then you must find your own meditation technique. It should be something where you think that you are at peace and can easily clear your mind of all the thoughts that constantly keep roaming in your head.

Zen represents the path to awareness & full awakening meant to help you embrace the original nature. This is always present in our life right here and now.

You don’t need to force yourself to attain Zen state of mind, if you do something that makes you happy, helps you concentrate properly on this world and the things around you, keeps your mind clear then you are practising Zen. Just keep practicing your meditation technique. That’s all.

Whatever activity disconnects you from your immediate world & makes you happy, that’s also meditation. Doing that constantly, practicing everyday will lead to a ZEN State Of Mind for yourself.

Writing, reading, playing, painting…whatever. Just do it religiously for certain moments every day. Do it forb two weeks to experiment & then see the difference!!!!

I have written this post for  Alphabet Z for  #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

EX PARTNER – Never Entertain Them Again!!!

EX PARTNER, EX Partners – will I get back my Ex in my life? It’s a common question for most of us. In fact, last couple of months, I have doing been Tarot Reading. I found that most of my clients, no matter what age, gender, community…etc they belong to have this question. I am not a relationship expert. Neither I ever prefer to write on relationships. Because they are complex depending upon the people, surrounding, circumstances. And the prospective always differs.

As a Tarot Reader being neutral whatever I get as the answer I say them to my querent. But as a person I always feel why should one go back to an Ex – Partner? Or why should we entertain someone who has broken our trust and left us? Isn’t our past, is past for a reason?

Let’s me tell how I see it!!

I believe in LOVE…there is no doubt about it. But when we talk of Love, I feel it is a pure & divine feeling. You are truly blessed if ever LOVE has happened to you. I am not talking about the Attractions, infatuations…etc. Love has a direct connect with the heart. There is only one condition for LOVE, that is UNCONDITIONA. Means “There is No Condition”.

Now let’s see how it happens. Two people meet, no matter where or when, one pursues, the other one finally falls. Their energies meet. There is a connect between heart. Both the partner invests their energies & emotions on each other. And it gives the maximum pleasure, content under the sky. There is nothing right or wrong in love, because everything is fair in it.

Now something goes wrong. May be one partner was just attracted, the other one in love. Whatever could be the reason. They BREAK UP!!

Now as per me if a BREAK UP happens then at least for that moment either both or one of the partners is not completely to it. As per my observation mostly the person who was not in to it completely, LEAVE.

Because I always feel LOVE is mutual but BREAK UPS are hardly mutual. One partner break, the other has to face. In most of the cases at least.

It would be a long thing we discuss why break up happen which is not a point here. My point is once you become EX or your partner becomes EX…

For a moment, let’s assume it’s YOU. Your partner LEFT you…no matter for what? I am not blaming anyone. There could be valid reasons too & a BREAK UP was inevitable. But I always feel if Break up is inevitable, then it should be done with a CLOSURE. Closure in the sense, enough time, space, and do it slowly giving both of you enough time to get accommodated with the developments in your surroundings.

But it’s painful when it is done SUDDENLY & most of times it happens that way. In such cases, One Person Moves Ahead, the other person LEFT BEHIND. Let’s assume You are later case. I always feel such scenario is no less than a MURDER & I think the person who does this knowingly or unknowingly commits an unpardonable sin. But then everyone is free to choose.

Now, you experience hell, have painful days & tormenting nights. Love, makes vulnerable because it makes you Pure & Clean. Anything pure is vulnerable…right. And let’s say you break, you are wounded, you are betrayed, you cried, you sobbed and eventually you accept, you heal yourself and then get back to own self. It takes time.

Now tell me why to Get That Person back in your life who has given you worst pain? That means you are still dependent on the other person to make you feel better. You still carry the baggage of that relationship. You LOVED that Partner…agreed but it could be one-sided…right. Else why that partner would leave you knowing very well that it would kill you from inside?

Had the person been a little genuine in terms character and emotion, he/she would have thought thousand times before hurting you, no matter what compulsions they faced.

My point is if you have gone though a painful break up, just because your partner wanted it, I tell you if that partner comes back, nothing will be same again.

Your energies changed, realities changed, feelings changed and most importantly both of you change as PERSON, you no more remain the same. Then what is the point having the same person when the relationship will not remain same anymore.

If You have truly LOVED, LET that person GO, Wish All LUCK to Her/Him in life. TRUSTR ME…there is something called a HIGHER POWER, UNIVERSE. Your truthfulness & Honesty is recorded there. You will get the LOVE you Deserve. Often exes are sometimes a major distraction from the things which we truly deserve in life.

Remember as a Caterpillar You might be TRULY in Love with the Leaves, and it’s perfectly fine. But if you have gone through extreme pain of break up because of it, then you become a Butterfly, you are destined to be in a Garden of Flowers. So, as a Butterfly is there any point to go back to leaves?

Pian is an Alchemy which renovates us for better things.  There is a purpose, why a person becomes a present & then EX. The purpose of Your Ex is to cleanse you for better person. Accept it and Have Gratitude for your EX, but getting back her/him in life means knowingly getting into something bigger, in terms of pain.

I hope you understand my point!!!!

So, I feel, Ex-Partner – Never Entertain in Life Again. Especially if it is separation without a Closure.

Lord Krishna had to separate from his beloved Radha, but he had given his most favourite thing to her, His Flute…That’s is called the closure. that’s why their love has is considered the Greatest Love…. under the sky.

In LOVE there is Separation but not Break Up!!! Once someone becomes Ex Partner, means it’s past and our past is past for a reason. 

This is my post for Alphabet X written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter
And Your Feelings Matter
Your Voice Matters
Your Story Matters
Your Pain Matters
Your Happiness Matters
Your Success Matters
Your Failure Matters
You Are Important & Everything That Makes YOU…. Matter!!!
 

I am a self-claimed mental health activist. Because from a very tender age I have seen the how mentally stressed people suffer & make others suffer too. And I feel very intensely for those people who end their lives in an impulsive moment. I was very much disturbed when the news of actor Sushant Singh Rajpoot’s demise had surfaced.

I know this is a reality. We have people around who might be going through the same impulsive state. It doesn’t matter to what strata of society we belong to, in what profession we are in, what’s the gender…nothing matters because inside the brain, the network is same for all.

Suicide is always a permanent decision to deal with a temporary problem…. we all know that.
It’s a whimsical reaction to sudden a flush of strong emotions that makes the person edgy for that vulnerable moments.

Let me clear it, Depression isn’t the only reason for it. Because It’s not that every depressed person will commit suicide or everyone who is committing suicide is depressed but those who are in depression are vulnerable for sure.

It’s very difficult to understand a person having suicidal thoughts or behavior unless you have gone through the same. Trust me, I was having chronic suicidal thoughts. Can you believe it?? I agree it could be because of some traumatic childhood/upbringing things. Or may the reason be I am too sensitive. But every one has a very sensitive side. At least once in a life time every one goes though the life’s sulking experiences & become very vulnerable. But some people just don’t find it easy to digest it. They need help. And there where I feel we can step in and save lives.

As I say, I’m very sensitive & a small trigger to my emotions edges me to that state. I had tried to end my life couple of times also. But Thankfully, saved, narrowly escaped. It’s a confession…
However, Every time after I got that narrow escape, I felt, how stupid it was of me thinking of ending my life for the people, reasons or issues that bothered me a lot. In fact, after every escape I didn’t even find those things worth thinking for let alone dying for it. It’s just sheer STUPIDITY…I tell you.

But yes, I know what a person goes through just before committing suicide. Death appears easier than living. It gives tremendous courage to die, which in normal state we can never do. We fear death…right. But in THAT state, that FEAR just disappears for that moment. But later, everyone – except few who are unlucky to escape that moment – realizes that life is worth living for. Life is not just that “Particular Moment” but the countless moments we are suppose to live.

Now I am stable, I know very well how to live with it. I spoke to couple of my friends to understand why I feel that way, at first place.  I spoke to experts also. Took some professional help too. And then I realized, at the end the day, It’s ME matters for me more than anyone else.

I realized that accepting that I have some mental issues is the first step to deal with it. Mental health is a reality. And then I understood that it’s okay to sad & sensitive but never hurt ourselves.

At last, I feel the best thing is to talk about it. Sometimes, we just don’t find anyone to talk how we feel. For this, I feel we should avail ourselves for others in their most vulnerable moment. And I did the same.

So, if you are reading this, and you or anyone who you know, ever go through such sudden flush of strong emotions, then please connect with me. @tina_acharya.

It’s okay Life sucks at times.
It’s okay people who we trust betray us,
It’s okay we face issues, unfairness, wrong people, judgements.
It’s okay we make mistakes
It’s okay we don’t get what we want, what we deserve….

But it’s NOT okay to hurt ourselves, end our lives…A BIG NO! Because “YOU MATTER”

The best way to deal with such occasional emotions is to understand your own emotional states. Speak to someone when you feel the surge of those emotions. It works wonders.
No matter who you are, if you are reading this …feel free to talk to me or anyone else who you feel can understand your feeling…
Before taking a plunge to a permanent decision…. TALK ONCE…I know I can help YOU.TRUST ME

TRUST ME, I CAN HELP YOU…I AM THERE FOR YOU…Because I understand how it feels to be in THAT STATE.

This is my post for Alphabet Y written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

JUST LEAVE IT

 JUST LEAVE IT!!

Just Leave it, when it’s not in your hand
Just Leave it, when you know you can’t
Just Leave it, when you find yourself in a wrong tale
Just Leave it, when you know it gives you nothing but pain
Just Leave It, Just Leave It, & Trust Me
The Magic Will Happen as Things will settle of its own!!!

It was in the year 2011

We had relocation from Delhi to Mumbai. My new rented house in Mumbai was smaller than that of the fully furnished flat at Delhi. Not only undersized but also there was no storage space available in my new house.

So, when the packers’ people unloaded the consignment and asked for the space to keep the unpacked things, I had no idea how to allocate them. Nevertheless, some regular things like refrigerator, Television, sofa etc were unpacked immediately and took their respective allotted places. But a lot of boxes could not get unpacked due to non-availability of space.

Undecided, we finally had to keep them the other bedroom. And it was looking like that of a warehouse. A total mess.  I am a very sorted person. I just can’t be comfortable if things are not organized.  As expected, I was mentally very upset for this. I couldn’t free my mind. Every time I had a look in that room, I would feel very distressed. Clutter is something I really hate.

I felt as if the unorganized thing boxes) had occupied the whole space in my MIND. Every time I look at them, they were quite annoying. I kept thinking how to organize them. I was just unable to get them out of my mind. In fact, I was so stressed that I fall ill and became unwell for a week.

In those days my friend Rachna from Delhi called me up to know my whereabout. Whether we got settled or not. I told her how I was feeling. Then she told me, “Tina, Just Leave It, don’t think so much about it stressing your mind. Things will be fine with time.”

It was difficult not to think about it but there was no option also. I wasn’t physically well too. So, slowly I stopped thinking much about it that time.

Days passed. Then slowly I realized that I have to stop thinking about them completely. Because nothing could be done immediately. I had to stop worrying anyway. With every passing day I started accepting the mess, getting used it. When we resist, we feel difficulty in accepting. #Fact. So probably I had stopped resisting the reality. And it worked.

Later my husband and I decided to go for some storage furniture as per the requirement slowly but surely. Till then, we let it as it is”. I just leave it as it is!!! Later on, everything was fine and nicely accommodated. The boxes were unpacked & certain things were discarded. Rest of the things were kept well organized.

Today when I look at this incident though it appears as a very trivial yet I find it as an “piece” very tactfully scripted by The Universe to teach me a very good lesson. With this incident I understood that Life is like this. We have many things to do. But sometime we don’t have enough resources. At least in particular moments. Again, however smart we are…. we cannot do anything unless we have adequate resources for it…. right!!!

May be sometimes our resources in terms of money, emotion…etc are not sufficient to take care of our immediate need. Sometime this kind of situation arises for a temporary period and may be sometime permanently they remain as it is. However, whether it is temporary or permanent in nature… usually they lead us to keep worrying. Sometimes, in fact we worry because we expect too much out of a situation. External things happen leading to some kind of mess in our life.

But thing is, we need to accept it first, then accommodate and then sort it out, in whatever possible way.

Life is full of desires, dreams and responsibilities. Also, it has some short of missing things in terms of knowledge, time, education or finance. In short… there will be always a crash between requirements and resources. So, whenever there is a collision between requirements and resources it is better to simply “JUST LEAVE IT” and stop worrying about it. Things will take care of themselves. Cool your mind…after all we are not here to do everything at any time nor could we ever do it like that. Isn’t it??

JUST LEAVE IT….ALLOW IT TO SETTLE DOWN ON IT”S OWN!!!

This is my post for Alphabet J written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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REST & RELAXATION FOR PEACEFUL RETURN OF THE MIND!!!

Rest and relaxation are recommended for the peaceful return of our mind. Especially after this pandemic. Two types of stress punctuate personal experience. Eustress -the pleasant or curative stress – is inspirational and motivational. Distress destroys.

Our mind has taken a big detour since the spread of the pandemic. It has started exploring the parts of our brain that we didn’t even know we had or it existed. During this time of pandemic, the mind has given us ideas that we never thought we would think. And basically, has done a lot of work that we never would have done lest the pandemic had not happened.

Many have found their lost passion being alive. Many have come up with out of box ideas. Many has discovered their philanthropic side while many has understood why we need to have gratitude for what we already have,

So now our mind has to just prepare itself for one last thing on this detour. Things are still grim and safety norms are the order of the day. The mind is exhaust, no doubt about it. It’s working overtime to adhere into the new normal of the life. And it will be working for another couple months that way.

Mind has spin through so many things at a time last couple of months. Reservoirs are sucked dry, things in us are edgy now. But still mind is working stretching itself, as much as possible.

As nothing last forever, so things are going to be normal again with some new normal though.  The detour will run its course and get over. But after that should we come to normal life, directly??

No, we shouldn’t.  We should never directly head a normal life. Before that we need to give our mind rest & relaxation time as it comes back from the detour. It is time to slow down, repair, rejuvenate and reconnect with what matters. We are going to return to a world of optimisation, ambition, smugness and obligation again. We would push hard on multiple fronts again. But before that we need to give rest & relaxation time to mind for its peaceful return to its normal state. And then we shall return back to our normal life.

This is an article for the future not for the present But I wanted to write it now. So Here It is!!! Hope You all Liked it!!!

This is my post for Alphabet R written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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A Quirky Friend!!!

A Quirky Friend is someone who is odd but add more value to your friendship. I think everyone has at least one of them.

That day it was really horrible.  I was totally down with pain. Two days before, it was mild, gradually increasing substantially the next day. I had taken a pain killer. Still, it was intolerable. Even painkillers were not working. Perhaps something was really wrong. I had taken the doctor’s appointment for the evening.

It’s not that I’m having a toothache for the first time. But it was never so serious. It used to reside after taking some pills or some homemade remedies.

I tell you, if you say Heartbreaks Sucks Most, then I’m sure you might not have ever experienced TOOTHACHE…!

I was lying on the bed when my phone rang. The name flashed on the phone screen was “PehchanKounShakti”

Let me confess one of my typical habits related to storing phone numbers. I have a habit of giving it a tag depending upon the behaviours, reference or something like that of the owner of the number. Not all phone number though.

For ex, I have a relative whom I know has a habit of gossiping in your back. He would talk nicely with you but in your back he would say something against you to somebody else in the family. There were so many misunderstanding because of him in the families. So, I have given him a tag as “Lagajota Reporter”. (Lagajota is an Odia word that means “bitching”)

In similar way I have also a habit of giving tags to my friends while saving their numbers. Not all though. So, I have Friends called GoogleNiru, WikipediaRachna, MrsFunnyboneBhabi, SanjuFukre, DharaviKaKabirSingh, MysticMina

(some bad tags as well like khadoosbaba, MunicipalityHospital, SadahuaSamosa…. etc which I can’t say the names here) and many more…

One of them is “PehchanKounShakti” …

Shakti is really a wonderful friend. We had met for the first time in the initial days of our working life.  Since then, from just being colleagues to we became best friends. He is actually very witty and would always cheer you up saying something in a very amusing way. “Yeah…I am thinking of changing his tag as “KapilSharmaShakti”. 

There is a story behind this tag “Pehchan koun”.  First, He used to be bit like Navin Pravakar – The Comedian – of the first season of Comedy Reality show The Great Indian Comedy Show. Second, he is very good in drawing cartoons. So, he would draw some and ask us “Pehechan Koun Hai Ye” every day. It could be boss, manager, collogues, watch man, office boy…anyone. Had drawn my sketches too…peculiar one. It’s a regular thing at office. So “PehechanKounShati” is the best fit tag…isn’t it?

I picked up the phone…

After the initial exchange of hi/hello…he enquired about why wasn’t I active in group chat for two days. I told him about my problem.

“It could be a root canal … I guess?” He said very caringly.

“Hmm…even I feel so.” I sighed

“Well, you need to take care of your teeth…. dear. Use some ayurvedic or medicated tooth paste to prevent your teeth from decay.” He said seriously after learning that I was really in awful pain.

“Hmm…right. Let’s see what the Dentist will prescribe “I replied.

“Hey…I know an ayurvedic guy who recommends very good toothpaste for all-round care of your teeth and gums.” He said thoughtfully. “Why don’t you visit him after you visit your Dentist? I’m sure there will be no further problem in future.”

“Is it really? Are you sure?” I asked anxiously. “Give his details then…I will try to visit.”

“Of Course, I’m sure. It’s very scientific.” He said in a convincingly.

“Ohh!! What’s scientific about it? I mean is it something purely medicated?” I asked

“Not Like that! Well…once you start using it na, all the problems will be sorted.”  He said with much confidence.

“Really!! How?” I asked

“See, once you start using it, within a month…I guess…all your teeth would become Mr.India. When there will be no teeth…then how will there be pain?

Na Rahega bansh…Na bajegi Bansuri…ha ha ha”  and he giggled loudly.

“You Brutus….”

And you can imagine my situation…I would have banged his head had I been before me.

God! This guy is incorrigible. Initially I was really annoyed like anything and felt like punching him in the phone itself. That was surely not a time for joke.   But after sometime…I couldn’t stop laughing more because…it could only be an odd, A Quirky Friend like Shakti who can take the risk to cheer you up even when you’re in pain.

One of the best things about my life is I have really been blessed with very good friends. They are like my soul family. Also A Quirky Friend like Shakti is a precious possession. Thank you, all my friends, you are all treasure of my life.

Hey Shakti…Thank you yaar!! I would have dumped you in Municipality dump yard that day but you know what…har eek friend jaroori hota hai…majboori hai na yaar

Do You Have a Quirky Friend too?

he he he… 🙂 

This is my post for Alphabet Q written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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Let’s Plant a Tree in Every Festival!!!

 Let’s Plant a Tree in Every Festival!!!

Let’s Plant a Tree in Every Festival Because Without Trees Being Part of It No Festivals Can Be Celebrated!!!

INDIA

What are the things that comes to our mind when we hear this word India? Within a moment the silver screen of our mind rolls down the images of our variety culture, the ritualistic traditions the colorful celebrations of different festivals, & the beautiful co-existence of paradoxes, contradictions & incongruities. A culture of oxymora !!Not only that, ours is the oldest cultures and traditions in the world too. Moreover, we never hesitate to accommodate new things, new ideas as well. And the best thing is, we have the guts too to discard outdated notions & obsolete concepts. isn’t it?

Festivals, out of all, defines India’s soul. We Indians love to celebrate every small thing. And guess what, our festivals are mostly connected to Nature. And if I am correct then Trees are the most important part of almost all our festivals, rituals, or traditions.

For instance, Let’s think of an Indian festival where the plants or trees are not part of it…can we find one? I guess…rarely so? So, if tree or plants are always an inseparable part of our festivals then how about PLANTING A TREE While Celebrating Every Festival!!!

Let’s Plant a Tree In Every Festival!!

This year, fortunately I was invited to be a part of a Plantation Drive By Lioness Club, Seawoods, Navi Mumbai by my friend Madhu Shankar on the day of LOHRI!!!

It is believed that the festival LOHRI commemorates the passing of the winter solstice. Lohri marks the end of winter & is a traditional welcome of longer days and the SUN’s journey to the northern hemisphere.

One of the important parts of Lohri celebration is worshiping bonfire. Why do we burn fire on Lohri? Folklore of Punjab believes that the flames of the bonfire lit on the day of Lohri carry the messages & prayers of the people to the Sun God to bring warmth to the planet to help crops grow. In exchange, the SUN GOD blesses the land & ends the days of gloom and cold.

Not only Lohri, whether its HOLIKA or Havan, Diwali or Death or Wedding or Cremation, for every ritual or festival we believe in Flames of Fire. And a tree (read part of a tree) is lit to flame that pious fire & exactly that’s where I feel that “We Should Plant a Tree” in the same day when we use it as a part of our celebration.

Moreover, Trees are a link between the past, present and future. With exponential diminution in forest cover worldwide because of our ambitious idea of lifestyle, the only way we can save trees is by consciously acting towards environmental conservation.

Looking at the perilous impact that rampant deforestation, fuelled by development and infrastructure projects, has over the environment, it has become a necessity, actually a dire need to Plant More Trees anyways.

And what would be the best occasion when we celebrate our favourite festival. By Clubbing Festivals & Rituals with Trees, not only we can change the Face of India & the Entire Globe But also, we can change the Fate of the Planet Earth!!! 

Therefore, I Feel LET’S PLANT A TREE IN EVERY FESTIVAL OR OBSERVING RITUALS TO CELEBRATE IT IN TRUE SPIRIT!!LET’S TAKE IT TO ANOTHER LEVEL OF CELEBRATION!!! And Trust me It’s Immensely Soul Gratifying Also!!! 

Let’s Plant A Tree in Every Festival!!

This is my post for Alphabet L written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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Overthinking – How to Overcome This?

Overthinking is precisely the art of thinking of a news-headline where the news is yet to be a news!! Thinking is good but Overthinking means Just creating a mess!!

We are all acknowledge adults. We know everything. Yet we at times do overthinking. I do – I agree. In fact, it happens. Sometimes it becomes a habit. I was through it. I had a feeling that I could never get rid of this habit.

What happens with a lot of us is we get conditioned to live our lives in certain ways.  It becomes a part of us, a habit, we become conditioned to it and it is very difficult to come out of that particular habit and in this case the habit being overthinking.

There was a lady egg seller. Every day she would manage few eggs from a poultry farm with the meagre money in her hand, sell them & buy the daily ration for her family. That particular day it was the foundation day of the farm. The owner had decided to give a Big Basketful of Eggs to all his daily customers as a gift. The lady was in seventh heaven as she got the Big Basketful of Eggs, free. She carried it on her head and walked to the nearby town to sell them off.

She was excited for the extra earning…err…really a big extra earning out of that those eggs. She was lost in thoughts while walking, planning about the extra money.

“I wouldn’t spend all the money today, will save a big part of it. Tomorrow, I will again buy a basketful of eggs & sell them. In this way I would earn more everyday and save more & more. Once it’s enough, I would go for my own Poultry farm. Soon, there would be more profit. I would go for a big bungalow having all luxuries. I would be having servants at home to serve me and my family. I would be enjoying sitting on my bed & watching my favorite movie. If my children would come to disturb me asking for the dinner then I would say, “NO I WON’T, WHY CAN’T YOU ASK THE SERVANT TO SERVE YOU””

And in a hit of thought she really SHOOOOOK her head & the Egg Basket Fell down, all eggs being broken…. 😉 😊

So basically, Overthinking doesn’t earn us anything but precisely makes our present a mess. If you are through it then it’s very important to get rid of it. It’s not easy but then not impossible too!!

How to Overcome Overthinking!!

  1. We must understand no matter what Overthinking is a habit & a habit is can always be changed or stopped
  2. We often think a lot when we do not have enough to do. Basically, when we are not occupied with things outside then we are a lot occupied with the mind inside. Simply we need to involve our mind in something.
  3. We should occupy ourselves outside, in our work, family or friends, communicating or doing things.
  4. It’s a great help if we take up something to learn new. That gives a pause to the “Loop of Overthinking”. It works as a distract to make the mind focus on something else, reducing the Loop Timing.
  5. Stop feeding the thought. See, if you feed your dog more & more, it will grow fat. Anything fed in excess grow in excess. So also, Thoughts. If we keep feeding them, they would just expand taking more & more of your mind space.
  6. Stop Paying attention to the mind. See mind is like a child.
  7. The mind is like a child, the more the child cries and if we pay attention to the child, the child starts crying more. If you ever see a child that has gotten hurt, you will find that the child starts making a ruckus. The child starts crying to get attention from the mother. If the mother pays attention of course if it is something serious the mother must pay attention to the child and nurse the wound; but sometimes it’s not even a serious wound and children are just creating a scene to get attention from the mother.

Now if the mother pays attention to such a small thing you know that the child is going to increase the volume and intensity of the cry. It’s a drama there. And therefore, if the mother ignores the child in a situation which is not very serious and the drama is unnecessary, the child’s intensity and crying will drop down till he or she stops crying. If you notice, this does happen. Therefore, the mind is exactly is like that. It’s a DRAMA QUEEN. The more we pay unnecessary attention to thoughts that don’t need attention at all the more we get pushed into the loop of overthinking.

  1. So therefore, we should learn to neglect such thoughts that don’t need attention.
  2. Meditation & Mindfulness also helps a lot. It’s not easy and really difficult in the beginning, but slowly it catches up & sprinkles water on the wild fire in your mind (Read Thoughts).
  3. Meditation not only stops overthinking but also destroys the fertility of the mind for these unnecessary weeds to grow, It makes the mind a fertile ground for the things to grow that are better for your highest good.

Obviously when a DRAMA QUEEN is stopped from unnecessary drama, it would put its energy to develop a Beautiful Script…Right!

These things worked for me…. I hope it would work for you as well!! Let me know…

This is my post for Alphabet O written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

Natan Sharansky The Man Who Beat the World Chess Champion Garry Kasporov!!

Natan Sharansky – is an Israeli politician, human rights activist – was a Jew living in communist Russia in 1970s. However, for some reason he was accused of being an American spy and thrown into the jail by the Russian Government.

The conditions in jail were very bad. Adding to that for 400 days he was in the Siberian jail, the worst of them all. His prison cell was 4 feet by 3 feet, where he used to live. Pathetic…isn’t it?

Now in such a place your body will start deteriorating for the lack of exercise and the brain will also start waning too. But he had a strong will to not only survive but also to remain alright. It was really tough but he didn’t want to give it up. Of course, for his body he would do anti-gravity exercises, but “what to do for the brain?” was the question.

As a child he was very fond of chess, so he decided to play chess in the mind.  Now to keep 64 squares in the mind, naturally is a big mental gymnastics in itself. Isn’t it? But he started playing chess. Then the next question was “with who to play with??” “Why not play with the World Champion?” He thought. The world champion in those days was Garry Kasparov. So he DECIDED… he used to play chess with Gary Kasparov in the mind, everyday.

He stayed in jail for 12 years. After 12 years when Bill Clinton became the President of USA, he made an appeal to the Russian Government and the Russian government released him. He went out of jail and travelled to live in Israel, where he became a cabinet minister eventually.

Once Garry Kasparov came on a visit to Israel. As we know the Grandmasters and World champions play demonstration matches with budding players of the Countries they visit.

Natan Sharansky The Man Who Beat the World Chess Champion Garry Kasporov!!
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In the demonstration match they would take on 5 players at a time or even 40 players. Now on this day, Garry Kasparov was playing against 5. One against 5. He defeated 4 of them, but he lost to one person. And the person whom he lost to was Natan Sharansky.

Surprised to the core, The reporters asked him, “Sir, how did you defeat the World Chess Champion? You are not a grandmaster or anything of the sort.”

He said, “You know, for 12 x 365 days I was defeating him every day in my mind. So, I had got programmed. To defeat him was the most natural thing for me. Like as you keep typing, it becomes natural for you.”

Everybody was surprised and awe-inspired by his story.

Now, what does this story teach Us??

The Power of Strong Will – When You Have a Rock-Solid Will Power, you can really move a Rock.

It’s not the Circumstances that make Us weak, It’s WE become weak against circumstances.

To be Weak or Not is a CHOICE in any given situation & not a Compulsion.

An last & the most important thing is THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION!!!

Natan Sharansky was able to defeat Garry Kasporov was the most natural thing, because he had visualized it again and again and again in his mind. He had programmed his subconscious mind for victory against the World Chess Champion. And he in reality he did so. That was the seer power of Visualization.

A Picture speaks 1000 words. When we want something, it’s said that repeated affirmation leads to the law of attraction. However, if we Visualize it, it becomes a picture in mental screen which is equivalent to 1000 times affirmations at once…it’s that simple!! It becomes natural for the things to come to you….!!!Isn’t it AMAZING!!!!

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This is my post for Alphabet N written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLTFWCFz-kw&t=70s

Listen to the Story Here…I really Loved It!!!

Finally Found the MAGIC APPLE!!!

MAGIC APPLE!!!…Sounds weird…Right!!!Well I think everyone of us is looking for this Magic Apple; because An Apple a Day Keeps the Doctor away 🙂 And who don’t want to stay away from Doctor ??

We all have heard the proverb, “An Apple a day, Keeps the Doctor Away.” This proverb is actually believed to have originated in Wales in the year 1860s. However, when first used, this proverb had a slightly different form. It had begun, “Eat an apple when going to bed; you will keep the doctor from earning his bread.”

‘Bread’, in the above phrase, in general means ‘salary’ i.e., ‘you will stop the doctor from earning his salary out of your upset health.  On a lighter note, like any woman, I have also teased my friends who have doctor spouses, “You must not be eating apples…right.”

Well, I must say I always wondered, how come a simple fruit like APPLE can keep us healthy forever. And if so, then I can understand people who can’t afford this slightly costly fruit, having health problems; but what about the wealthy people?? They can always afford an APPLE a day and keep away themselves from doctors evermore.

But then, it never happens like that. In fact wealthy people tend to have more complex health issues. And it wouldn’t be wrong to say that a large chunk of a Doctor’s earning actually comes from the rich and wealthy people’s wallet. Isn’t it?

Moreover, once I met a person in a posh hospital, waiting for his turn for appointment with the doctor who had his own apple yard. I asked him, “Didn’t you eat an Apple a day when you were growing them in your back yards?”  He only smiled sarcastically.

Since then, I was in an eternal search for that MAGIC APPLE…However, recently I really found it when I realized the actual truth of it.

Before that let me tell you something…

Anta Tikta, Danta Lun,
Peta Puriba Tini Gun, 
Mathe Pagoda, Pav Tel
Baida Sange Kariba Gel….
 

The above lines in Odia are basically an ancient way of lifestyle; that was believed to be important to keep people healthy till their last breath and live a long life. It’s meaning is…

Every morning, take something bitter in empty stomach,

apply salt in teeth regularly,

eat up to ¾th of your stomach (never eat stomach full),

always cover your head and message oil in the feet before going to sleep.

If you do these things, you can challenge any doctor in the village, assuring him that you would never take his consultancy.   

It’s only when I literally had to play a “temple-run”, precisely running from one doctor to other, to address my different health problems, I realized how a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE is imperative for BEING HELTHY.  

 

LIFE itself doesn’t come up with any health problems; it’s the LIFESTYLE we lead, that brings us the health issues.

That’s why since time immemorial, whenever we get affected by any disease or health issues, doctors advise us to adopt some Lifestyle changes; sometimes for a temporary period and sometimes permanent changes depending upon the health ailment – along with the medications.  Sometimes we are advised to add few foods to our diets and sometimes to remove few things too.  So, while dealing with health issues, doctors invariably ask us to change and espouse a better lifestyle.

Also, this proverb, ‘an apple a day keeps the doctor away’, has both a literal and a broader meaning. Literally, it suggests that eating one apple a day will mean that you do not need to visit the doctor. More broadly, it is about getting into a healthy daily routine.  It might involve healthy eating habit, more generally, a healthy lifestyle.

So, after realizing the “CAUSES – The Wrong Way Of Living” that creates health issues, especially, I understood what that MAGIC APPLE is. It’s nothing but “A Set of Habits and Dos and Don’ts” that helps us keep our health, both Physical and Mental, in good shape and condition. These are as follows…according to me

A – ACCEPT, AMEND & ADOPT   Accept your weakness & wrong habits, amend them, & Adopt Good habits      

P–     PLAY or take on a Physical Activity for Physical fitness and Pursue Your PASSION for Mental Health. 

P – PRAY, PRACTICE Meditation and Believe In POSITIVITY

L – LAUGH Out loudly, LOVE Yourself, LIVE Life

 E – EXPRESS Gratitude for Everything You have, ERASE Bad Vives & EVOLVE Energized!!

Well…APPPLES have always been very magical, whether it is…ADAM’S APPLE or NEWTON’s APPLE or STEVE JOBS’s APPLE and Now This MAGIC APPLE

I swear, if we incorporate the above things in ourselves, chances are that, may be Doctors will soon start for looking for different means for earning. Trust me.   

NOW isn’t it the real MAGIC APPLE…?? STAY HEALTHY AND HAPPY!!!

This is my post for Alphabet F written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter