Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves, around you, acknowledge their hard work & achievements.

One of my friends who is an eminent writer & a very composed persona in herself writes….

जिसे दूसरों की जश्न-ए-फतेह, ख़ुद की तरह मनाने की तालीम हो, उसकी रोज़ फ़तेह ही फ़तेह है! @ponderer_shashidip

We human beings are complex in our nature. Often it happens that we love to recognize the accomplishments of people around us only when everything is fine with us. Or we are doing good.  When things don’t work with us, we just either fail to congratulate or acknowledge but sometimes we feel bad & become sarcastic also.

Human psychology is like “when friend fail ho jata hai to bura lagta hai but agar friend top karta hai to to JYADA bura lagta hai”

I am not going to dig dipper into the psychological aspect of it & how to deal with it. The renowned psychologists are the best person to share their insights.

My observation is very simple. Co-existence of conflicting feelings is inevitable in everyone’s life. At our most miserable time, may be one of our close friends or relatives gets the highest accomplishments. Maybe we want to acknowledge, appreciate that, but deep down within us the feelings sadness strongly surface. Basically “Ambivalence, or having strong feelings in two opposing directions at once, can be a very stressful state,”

Now comes the reactions/response, which is very important to define how it goes ahead. Either we supress the internal feelings & appreciate others achievement or we become sarcastic or jealous or you know sometimes just become critical of it.  I don’t see merit on both the way.

I feel, life is a solitary journey. And time is always moving…which is an eternal truth. I learnt with the course of life that “It’s Just about My Life, My timings”.

I learnt to keep things apart. My friend is really accomplishing great heights is one thing. And my timing is not perfect is another. Even though things are happening at the same time, I keep them separate.

In the former case I feel happy, derive inspiration from my friends’ accomplishments, learn the tricks how he/she managed to do the required hard-works. Also,

 it motivates me in a positive way that things can really workout if someone is consistent & sincere.

On the later case, I accept my feelings, accept my timings

 

 & try to evaluate the reasons why things are not working out & look for changes that needs to be incorporated. Also, I learn to be patient & wait for my turn.

Also, I feel every happenings/occurrence in our 

immediate surrounding has something to tell us. Everything is live for me & I try to listen what exactly I being told by these events.

Trust me, it helped me process the emotions in easier way. I really feel happy within to Congratulate my friend. At the same time, I could hear a voice from within that your turn is just ahead…

So, Congratulate people, even when things miserable with us with true hearty feelings. It’s sometimes life’s test how you process Conflicting Emotions.

Time changes, so nothing is permanent in nature then how can bad times or good times be??!!

 

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves!!!

This is my post for Alphabet C written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

Become an Imposter

Become an Imposter – it sounds absurd, right,

Well, let me explain. It happened couple of months back. On my work place things were not working. There were certain assignments one has to do as a part of job deliverable. I was just not performing.

I knew affirmation works. But then when the things do not go well, you don’t even think right, let alone affirmations, right!

But I tried, just like that.  I just started saying to myself, I am doing good. I am performing. Trust me, many times I just looked at mirror & said I am the performer.

Slowly it worked. I felt positive. Things were as it is outside. But something in me changed.

Initially, It was hard to believe what I was saying, but gradually I started believing it. My thought process changed. I started thinking positive.

And then things started changing outside as well. The graph of my performance took an upward turn.

It’s a small observation, I know. But point is if you pretend something, you start believing.

By saying become an imposter, I mean, pretend to be what you actually want to be if you are not already. You just need to act as if…

They say, “fake it till you make it”.

Long back I had read about it in Robin Sharma’s book WHO WILL CRY, WHEN YOU WILL DIE.

Researches have shown that when we start faking something, with repeated affirmation, the brain start believing the same. Rachon, alias Amir Khan in the movie 3 idiots was saying, “All is well” …remember!!

It’s just about becoming an imposter in life, to give it a turn. It’s about your ability to show or hide emotions, depending on the situation.

Sometimes it’s good to wear your heart on your sleeve, and sometimes it’s better to just keep people guessing about how you truly feel about something. Sometimes, it’s good to pretend & become an imposter. It really works…try it once.

Let me know your story as well. 😊

 

This is my post for Alphabet B written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2022 by Blogchatter