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You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter
And Your Feelings Matter
Your Voice Matters
Your Story Matters
Your Pain Matters
Your Happiness Matters
Your Success Matters
Your Failure Matters
You Are Important & Everything That Makes YOU…. Matter!!!
 

I am a self-claimed mental health activist. Because from a very tender age I have seen the how mentally stressed people suffer & make others suffer too. And I feel very intensely for those people who end their lives in an impulsive moment. I was very much disturbed when the news of actor Sushant Singh Rajpoot’s demise had surfaced.

I know this is a reality. We have people around who might be going through the same impulsive state. It doesn’t matter to what strata of society we belong to, in what profession we are in, what’s the gender…nothing matters because inside the brain, the network is same for all.

Suicide is always a permanent decision to deal with a temporary problem…. we all know that.
It’s a whimsical reaction to sudden a flush of strong emotions that makes the person edgy for that vulnerable moments.

Let me clear it, Depression isn’t the only reason for it. Because It’s not that every depressed person will commit suicide or everyone who is committing suicide is depressed but those who are in depression are vulnerable for sure.

It’s very difficult to understand a person having suicidal thoughts or behavior unless you have gone through the same. Trust me, I was having chronic suicidal thoughts. Can you believe it?? I agree it could be because of some traumatic childhood/upbringing things. Or may the reason be I am too sensitive. But every one has a very sensitive side. At least once in a life time every one goes though the life’s sulking experiences & become very vulnerable. But some people just don’t find it easy to digest it. They need help. And there where I feel we can step in and save lives.

As I say, I’m very sensitive & a small trigger to my emotions edges me to that state. I had tried to end my life couple of times also. But Thankfully, saved, narrowly escaped. It’s a confession…
However, Every time after I got that narrow escape, I felt, how stupid it was of me thinking of ending my life for the people, reasons or issues that bothered me a lot. In fact, after every escape I didn’t even find those things worth thinking for let alone dying for it. It’s just sheer STUPIDITY…I tell you.

But yes, I know what a person goes through just before committing suicide. Death appears easier than living. It gives tremendous courage to die, which in normal state we can never do. We fear death…right. But in THAT state, that FEAR just disappears for that moment. But later, everyone – except few who are unlucky to escape that moment – realizes that life is worth living for. Life is not just that “Particular Moment” but the countless moments we are suppose to live.

Now I am stable, I know very well how to live with it. I spoke to couple of my friends to understand why I feel that way, at first place.  I spoke to experts also. Took some professional help too. And then I realized, at the end the day, It’s ME matters for me more than anyone else.

I realized that accepting that I have some mental issues is the first step to deal with it. Mental health is a reality. And then I understood that it’s okay to sad & sensitive but never hurt ourselves.

At last, I feel the best thing is to talk about it. Sometimes, we just don’t find anyone to talk how we feel. For this, I feel we should avail ourselves for others in their most vulnerable moment. And I did the same.

So, if you are reading this, and you or anyone who you know, ever go through such sudden flush of strong emotions, then please connect with me. @tina_acharya.

It’s okay Life sucks at times.
It’s okay people who we trust betray us,
It’s okay we face issues, unfairness, wrong people, judgements.
It’s okay we make mistakes
It’s okay we don’t get what we want, what we deserve….

But it’s NOT okay to hurt ourselves, end our lives…A BIG NO! Because “YOU MATTER”

The best way to deal with such occasional emotions is to understand your own emotional states. Speak to someone when you feel the surge of those emotions. It works wonders.
No matter who you are, if you are reading this …feel free to talk to me or anyone else who you feel can understand your feeling…
Before taking a plunge to a permanent decision…. TALK ONCE…I know I can help YOU.TRUST ME

TRUST ME, I CAN HELP YOU…I AM THERE FOR YOU…Because I understand how it feels to be in THAT STATE.

This is my post for Alphabet Y written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

Tina Acharya by — May 2, 2021 in LIFESTYLE 0
FOUR As To Deal with Depression

FOUR As To Deal with Depression…like Acceptance, Assertion,Amendment and awareness are the real ways in which depression can be dealt with.

In an ever increasingly interconnected world, people have never been so disconnected, detached and lonesome. Often we ignore someone in our surrounding who has all of a sudden gone in isolation, abruptly lost interests in day to day life and activities he or she has once get pleasure from most and have a extremely inert and passive stance towards life. These unusual behaviors often go unseen, overlooked or unnoticed and the person is edged to take a permanently erroneous decision.  The person surely suffers from an acute mental sickness and depression. Let’s not ignore it, anymore, reach out to the person, and help him/her get over this phase of life. Be sensitive, sensible and pro-active….

ADOPT THESE FOUR As

Acceptance– The first step is to accept its existence recognise it as a disease. “Depression Exist and its lethal for a normal well being of a person.”

Assertion – In many cases even if its existence is accepted, people seldom talk about it given to the social taboo. We have to get over this inhibition and make ourselves available for treatment.   

Amendment – Since it’s treatable, so along with medication, we have to amend some of our life style issues and outlook towards life.

Awareness – And last but not the least speared awareness about its existence, deadliness and curability.

We need to understand what depression is. Now, what is a “low”? What is it that happens within you? Fundamentally, you expected something to happen and it did not happen. You expected somebody or something to be your way or the world or the destiny to be your way, and it did not happen. In other words, you are simply against what is happening; that’s all. Maybe you are against a person, maybe you are against a whole situation, maybe you are against life itself. Accordingly, the depression will run deeper and deeper.   Says SADHGURU

The Above mentioned are the Fundamental FOUR As To Deal with Depression…at least to reach  at it’s entrance gate. 

Tina Acharya by — March 31, 2020 in LIFESTYLE 0
Depression – An Invisible Reality!!

Depression – An Invisible Reality!!

“Gloomy Sunday” often termed as “The Suicidal Song” is a song, composed by Hungarian pianist Rezso Seress in 1936 has been blamed for more suicides than any other song in the history. It was banned by BBC for 66 years till 2002, for its dark notoriety and lyrics. Similarly, recently an online game “The Blue Whale Challenge” had surpassed news and media, spreading shocker waves,  giving Goosebumps to parents of teenagers in particular and public in general as it had edged a lot of young adults to kill themselves who were a part of playing this game that has unnatural and weird challenges in offer for its players. 

Many would wonder how come a song or a game would make people do suicides!! Yes, it’s not the song that’s played in the recorder, or some online games having bizarre challenges, that abate someone to end her/his life. The real culprit is DEPRESSION. It’s the real monsters that gets triggered and start tapping on the vulnerable minds edging them to jump to the well of death.

We accept it or not, depression is an Invisible Reality. It has its hidden existence in the minds of people irrespective of their age, gender, race, ethnicity, income disparity, social status, religion or other aspect of cultural identity.   It makes people psychologically vulnerable for self destruction, making them available easily for abatement of suicide, even at a slightest and insignificant trigger.

Depression, a state of chronic sadness (major depressive disorder of mind) is a common and serious medical illness, pertaining to our mental health, which negatively affects how we feel the way we think and how we act.  It’s an acute mental health problem that has a serious impact on our emotional, psychological, and social well-being.

Probably, depression is one of the most deadly serious ailments, but the irony is it has never been taken seriously. Moreover, mental health care has never been a part of “being Healthy” in our homes in particular and society general. Fortunately, depression is treatable but unfortunately it’s never been accepted as a disease. So, to deal with depression, the first step is to recognize it as a disease and encourage awareness about it.

There are ways to deal with depression. Check Here FOUR As To Deal with Depression 

Tina Acharya by — March 31, 2020 in LIFESTYLE 0