Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves, around you, acknowledge their hard work & achievements.

One of my friends who is an eminent writer & a very composed persona in herself writes….

जिसे दूसरों की जश्न-ए-फतेह, ख़ुद की तरह मनाने की तालीम हो, उसकी रोज़ फ़तेह ही फ़तेह है! @ponderer_shashidip

We human beings are complex in our nature. Often it happens that we love to recognize the accomplishments of people around us only when everything is fine with us. Or we are doing good.  When things don’t work with us, we just either fail to congratulate or acknowledge but sometimes we feel bad & become sarcastic also.

Human psychology is like “when friend fail ho jata hai to bura lagta hai but agar friend top karta hai to to JYADA bura lagta hai”

I am not going to dig dipper into the psychological aspect of it & how to deal with it. The renowned psychologists are the best person to share their insights.

My observation is very simple. Co-existence of conflicting feelings is inevitable in everyone’s life. At our most miserable time, may be one of our close friends or relatives gets the highest accomplishments. Maybe we want to acknowledge, appreciate that, but deep down within us the feelings sadness strongly surface. Basically “Ambivalence, or having strong feelings in two opposing directions at once, can be a very stressful state,”

Now comes the reactions/response, which is very important to define how it goes ahead. Either we supress the internal feelings & appreciate others achievement or we become sarcastic or jealous or you know sometimes just become critical of it.  I don’t see merit on both the way.

I feel, life is a solitary journey. And time is always moving…which is an eternal truth. I learnt with the course of life that “It’s Just about My Life, My timings”.

I learnt to keep things apart. My friend is really accomplishing great heights is one thing. And my timing is not perfect is another. Even though things are happening at the same time, I keep them separate.

In the former case I feel happy, derive inspiration from my friends’ accomplishments, learn the tricks how he/she managed to do the required hard-works. Also,

 it motivates me in a positive way that things can really workout if someone is consistent & sincere.

On the later case, I accept my feelings, accept my timings

 

 & try to evaluate the reasons why things are not working out & look for changes that needs to be incorporated. Also, I learn to be patient & wait for my turn.

Also, I feel every happenings/occurrence in our 

immediate surrounding has something to tell us. Everything is live for me & I try to listen what exactly I being told by these events.

Trust me, it helped me process the emotions in easier way. I really feel happy within to Congratulate my friend. At the same time, I could hear a voice from within that your turn is just ahead…

So, Congratulate people, even when things miserable with us with true hearty feelings. It’s sometimes life’s test how you process Conflicting Emotions.

Time changes, so nothing is permanent in nature then how can bad times or good times be??!!

 

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves!!!

This is my post for Alphabet C written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

Become an Imposter

Become an Imposter – it sounds absurd, right,

Well, let me explain. It happened couple of months back. On my work place things were not working. There were certain assignments one has to do as a part of job deliverable. I was just not performing.

I knew affirmation works. But then when the things do not go well, you don’t even think right, let alone affirmations, right!

But I tried, just like that.  I just started saying to myself, I am doing good. I am performing. Trust me, many times I just looked at mirror & said I am the performer.

Slowly it worked. I felt positive. Things were as it is outside. But something in me changed.

Initially, It was hard to believe what I was saying, but gradually I started believing it. My thought process changed. I started thinking positive.

And then things started changing outside as well. The graph of my performance took an upward turn.

It’s a small observation, I know. But point is if you pretend something, you start believing.

By saying become an imposter, I mean, pretend to be what you actually want to be if you are not already. You just need to act as if…

They say, “fake it till you make it”.

Long back I had read about it in Robin Sharma’s book WHO WILL CRY, WHEN YOU WILL DIE.

Researches have shown that when we start faking something, with repeated affirmation, the brain start believing the same. Rachon, alias Amir Khan in the movie 3 idiots was saying, “All is well” …remember!!

It’s just about becoming an imposter in life, to give it a turn. It’s about your ability to show or hide emotions, depending on the situation.

Sometimes it’s good to wear your heart on your sleeve, and sometimes it’s better to just keep people guessing about how you truly feel about something. Sometimes, it’s good to pretend & become an imposter. It really works…try it once.

Let me know your story as well. 😊

 

This is my post for Alphabet B written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2022 by Blogchatter 

The Alchemist – Follow Your Dream

The Alchemist – Follow Your Dream

Way back in 2008, once my brother visited my place in Delhi. Among many gifts, The Alchemist – A Book written by the Brazilian Author Paulo Coelho – was one. He told me that I should read that book to understand life & destiny.

I am an avid reader since my childhood, However, trust me, that particular period of my life, I would describe it as a “Messy COCKTAIL”. Broken career, life challenges, personal life & hopelessness…. everything was a complete mess.

It was not easy to read a book in that chaotic state of mind. But I started reading it. And trust me as always, I seeped into the entire setting of the book. It was as if the soul inside the young Andalusian shepherd who travelled to the pyramids of Egypt, after having a recurring dream of finding a treasure there, was ME.

I am not going to write a review of the book here. My intention is to write how that book helped me to sail through that phase of life, after that, till today….

Humans are never born with any negative emotions. In fact, being born as a HUMAN itself is the HIGHEST BLESSING under the sky. We are born with a setting, a set of people, set of occurrences & with a Personal Legend. The life goal is very simple. We are supposed to find our personal legend, (read, personal calling) & follow it to reach our maximum potential, highest state of content & bliss.

But it’s not easy. Because it’s been scripted with challenges to drift us from our path. It’s obvious that we will lose the path as life does not come with a map.  It’s an unknown territory that we are supposed to trail. Either you find “The Route” or you “make your own way”.  So, drifting away is certain.  But then there is an inbuilt inner alert, like a GPS, that reminds us that we are not on “the path”.

This happens when we fail to face challenges then the best villain in our lives, FEAR, starts controlling our life, dominates every move of us. And one fine day we find ourselves in a complete state of being lost.

As I read through the book, I realized that I was under the grip of FEAR. The challenges so far had taken my life into a toss. My inner alert was trying to give me signals to come out of it, but I was simply ignoring them. I felt that I have lost my dream, but the truth was DREAMS, Like Energy, cannot be created or destroyed. Only the form or path is changed.

It answered many of my never asked question & helped me find answers to many of my “WHYs” too. It changed my outlook towards life & helped me take charge of my life.

And today, if you ask me, I am truly aligned with my path.

The book revolves around the Journey of a young shepherd boy Santiago who had a recurring dream of finding a treasure near the Pyramids of Egypt. He meets a fortune teller who interprets it as a prophecy. When he departs for his journey, he meets a king in his route who makes him understand that there are good omens & bad omens which let us know the upcoming blessings or challenges in life.

The boy takes some difficult decisions to follow his dream, to follow his personal calling of “Finding the Treasure”.  The journey he embarks on was full of obstacles, and at last, The Universe helps him understand “What is the Ultimate Treasure of Life”.

The best take-away from the book that will help us through out of our lives are

“Fear is detrimental for the normal state of being, let alone finding your personal calling”.

“When you really want something to happen, the whole universe will conspire so that your wish comes true”. (Quote from ‘The Alchemist)

UNIVERSE IS A LIVING BEING!!

The Alchemist – Follow Your Dream

This is my post for Alphabet N written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2022 by Blogchatter 

LIFE IS REALLY AMAZING!!

Life is Amazing!!!

 

Hello Friends,

This is Tina, naam to suna suna sa lag raha hoga, I know, I know, I am not a regular writer. So, if you are not remembering, then you are absolutely right. Well, let me tell you, I have made it a resolution to write every year for #BlogchatterA2Z challenge in April every year. Last couple of years, I religiously do it. This time also, I am looking forward to completing the challenge.

I know it’s going to be challenging, but trust me taking up this & to complete it itself gives me a sense of deep gratification.

Tina ki Duniya is a small word for me. If not the alter ego, it’s that side of mine, which often don’t get expressed in my day-to-day life.

I have always been a student of life. I admire its beauty in every step, good or bad. I met amazing people in my life who inspired me as a person. I faced amazing events, that shaped my thoughts, deeply rooting them to the reality of being human. I had amazing things that made me reflect over the course of my life.

All these AMAZING STUFFs enriched my life as a whole. So, My Theme for this Year for #BlogchatterA2Z  is

Life is amazing where I will write about Amazing Things, People & Life Events That I Faced or Met in My Life!!

There will be stories, observations, real life anecdotes, pictures, quotes and many more things in it. Also, I am looking forward to include some posts from my friends as a promise to publish. I think at the end it will appear like a platter with different aspects of life served on it. Hope the write ups will be up to the expectation level of readers. I promise the time spend on each & every post will be worth of it.

Looking forward to read a lot from you all.

 

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How can women be champion of change in MSME?

 

How can women be the champion of change in MSME business?

If Nykaa has been the answer to a question prominent in lives of both men and women. “Where to find the best deals for beauty and Skincare?” then isn’t Falguni Nayyar the most obvious answer to the above question? i.e. How can women be the champion of change in MSME business?

The recent stellar success story of Nykaa and its founder Ms. Falguni has changed the scenario of Women Entrepreneurship of Modern India.

Historically, women have always been revered in India. During Vedic times women were respected as architects of the society. Many women of that age were great learned scholars and philosophers.

However, with the passage of time things changed. No one knows how but barriers became a part of women’s lives. Their strength, potentials, competency and more precisely their aptitude were questioned that stalled their progress.

But again, with the advent of technology & the ingress of modernity women started breaking the walls. And with the success stories of women carving niche for themselves even in the areas that are considered male baston, the society has again started acknowledging the latent potential of the fairer sex.

Looking at the present scenario, I don’t think there is any scope of doubt when it comes women taking MSMEs to next level.

MSME is the Present and future of INDIA’s economic growth. Because in a simple language, small, micro and medium scale enterprises provides the bigger share of employment opportunities.

The practicability of small and medium-sized firms is greater than that of large firms or industries. Not only do they bring prosperity, affordability & employability to the people but also perform a fundamental role in driving the economy as well.

Small businesses, start-ups and entrepreneurs are some of the most important influencers of economic growth because, in any economy, they represent more than 90 per cent of all employers and create 60 to 80 per cent of all new jobs, annually as per the statistics.

Women are natural entrepreneurs. For instance, no matter how less is the income of the family they not only know how to manage the daily budget but also plan for future as well. I think this is one of most important quality when it comes to entrepreneurship.

  • Also, they are fast Learners & quick thinkers
  • Very particular about the input & output
  • Their competency can’t be questioned when it comes to work under pressure, resource management & budget contingency.
  • Moreover, they are sincere, particular & professional in their approach.
  • And last but not the least, they have that Midas touch quality that can change iron to gold…ohh come on let’s accept it.

They only need an eco-system which can create

  • Opportunities for capacity building,
  • Scope for learning skills,
  • Provide an access to credit and technology.  

And the Government understands that. It’s coming up with myriad schemes to encourage Women Entrepreneurship in India.

On this particular area how, how Government is working to facilitate not only women entrepreneurship but also boost their growth and sustainability, CLICK here to read a well written article.

At last, I would like to say, if MSME is the Face of a Developed Economy then women is the face of Successful MSMEs.

Let’s accept, most MSMEs are at present in a very STRUGGLING stage, but I am sure with the entrance of women in this sector, days are not far when we will be discussing not only the SUCCESS stories of MSMEs but also the SIGNIFICANCE they add to the economy and social structure of INDIA.

There are astronomical challenges I understand but isn’t it a CHALLENGE in itself to be a WOMAN in a regressive society like INDIA?

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ZEN State of Mind!!!

ZEN State of Mind is a state where Mind is not attached with Mind. It’s precisely a state of “No-mindedness”.

What does it exactly mean?

It means having some time for ourselves where we are not indulged in the thoughts of the mind. Like is as if we don’t have a mind. It is not a religion; it is not a belief, and it certainly is not a piece of knowledge. It’s a practice. And trust me it works.

I agree, we can’t be like Monks, especially Zen monks who most of the time stay in a meditative state. But even for a while if we practice this then it’s going to work wonders.

There is the zen story: “Once a person asked to a Zen Monk, “What is Zen?” The monk quickly jotted the word “Awareness” on a piece of paper. A bit confused, the person compelled him a bit: “Could you elaborate & explain?” The Monk again wrote a second note: “Awareness Awareness.”

The person, now totally confused asked again. This time he pushed him to elaborate kit properly. However, he got the written response as “Awareness Awareness Awareness.” Totally frustrated & annoyed, the person literally yelled, “What the hell does Awareness Awareness Awareness mean?” Undaunted, undisturbed, the monk again penned “Awareness Awareness Awareness means Awareness.”

So precisely, Zen is nothing but being aware that “we have a mind & we need to be in a no-mind. Initially it doesn’t happen that way.

Our mind is like a river, thoughts flowing in it as water. Most of our life we drip ourselves wet in the mind. Once we are aware of that, we need to sit, not allowing ourselves in the flow. It’s not easy initially. But as I say, it’s a practice. Everyone has the knowledge. But knowledge without practice is nothing.

Once we sit for a while, we find that the swollen river recedes, with time though. Thoughts appear to be vanishing, slowly…not all though. Also there are hidden thoughts that come to our notice in the beginning.

However, with time, we fill like we have found an island in the river of mind. Eventually it starts looking like as if you have developed a beautiful place for yourself.

Zen state of mind is where we just allow our mind to relax and feel good. Initially it’s like channeling the thoughts in one direction. Or just thinking something beautiful. In this way at least for a while the “Chaos” of different thoughts takes a pause.  That’s why in any guided meditation they take your mind in to a trance.

Is doing Meditation mandatory to achieve ZEN state of mind?

The answer is No. Though, meditation is an important part of Zen, but you do not need to sit in a certain position or listen to certain meditation videos or all that stuff, always. You can achieve Zen mind state by finding your own meditation technique.

See, meditation is something that you do to clear your mind so you can have a fresh perspective of things. But everyone can have a different meditation technique.

If you want to live the Zen life then you must find your own meditation technique. It should be something where you think that you are at peace and can easily clear your mind of all the thoughts that constantly keep roaming in your head.

Zen represents the path to awareness & full awakening meant to help you embrace the original nature. This is always present in our life right here and now.

You don’t need to force yourself to attain Zen state of mind, if you do something that makes you happy, helps you concentrate properly on this world and the things around you, keeps your mind clear then you are practising Zen. Just keep practicing your meditation technique. That’s all.

Whatever activity disconnects you from your immediate world & makes you happy, that’s also meditation. Doing that constantly, practicing everyday will lead to a ZEN State Of Mind for yourself.

Writing, reading, playing, painting…whatever. Just do it religiously for certain moments every day. Do it forb two weeks to experiment & then see the difference!!!!

I have written this post for  Alphabet Z for  #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

EX PARTNER – Never Entertain Them Again!!!

EX PARTNER, EX Partners – will I get back my Ex in my life? It’s a common question for most of us. In fact, last couple of months, I have doing been Tarot Reading. I found that most of my clients, no matter what age, gender, community…etc they belong to have this question. I am not a relationship expert. Neither I ever prefer to write on relationships. Because they are complex depending upon the people, surrounding, circumstances. And the prospective always differs.

As a Tarot Reader being neutral whatever I get as the answer I say them to my querent. But as a person I always feel why should one go back to an Ex – Partner? Or why should we entertain someone who has broken our trust and left us? Isn’t our past, is past for a reason?

Let’s me tell how I see it!!

I believe in LOVE…there is no doubt about it. But when we talk of Love, I feel it is a pure & divine feeling. You are truly blessed if ever LOVE has happened to you. I am not talking about the Attractions, infatuations…etc. Love has a direct connect with the heart. There is only one condition for LOVE, that is UNCONDITIONA. Means “There is No Condition”.

Now let’s see how it happens. Two people meet, no matter where or when, one pursues, the other one finally falls. Their energies meet. There is a connect between heart. Both the partner invests their energies & emotions on each other. And it gives the maximum pleasure, content under the sky. There is nothing right or wrong in love, because everything is fair in it.

Now something goes wrong. May be one partner was just attracted, the other one in love. Whatever could be the reason. They BREAK UP!!

Now as per me if a BREAK UP happens then at least for that moment either both or one of the partners is not completely to it. As per my observation mostly the person who was not in to it completely, LEAVE.

Because I always feel LOVE is mutual but BREAK UPS are hardly mutual. One partner break, the other has to face. In most of the cases at least.

It would be a long thing we discuss why break up happen which is not a point here. My point is once you become EX or your partner becomes EX…

For a moment, let’s assume it’s YOU. Your partner LEFT you…no matter for what? I am not blaming anyone. There could be valid reasons too & a BREAK UP was inevitable. But I always feel if Break up is inevitable, then it should be done with a CLOSURE. Closure in the sense, enough time, space, and do it slowly giving both of you enough time to get accommodated with the developments in your surroundings.

But it’s painful when it is done SUDDENLY & most of times it happens that way. In such cases, One Person Moves Ahead, the other person LEFT BEHIND. Let’s assume You are later case. I always feel such scenario is no less than a MURDER & I think the person who does this knowingly or unknowingly commits an unpardonable sin. But then everyone is free to choose.

Now, you experience hell, have painful days & tormenting nights. Love, makes vulnerable because it makes you Pure & Clean. Anything pure is vulnerable…right. And let’s say you break, you are wounded, you are betrayed, you cried, you sobbed and eventually you accept, you heal yourself and then get back to own self. It takes time.

Now tell me why to Get That Person back in your life who has given you worst pain? That means you are still dependent on the other person to make you feel better. You still carry the baggage of that relationship. You LOVED that Partner…agreed but it could be one-sided…right. Else why that partner would leave you knowing very well that it would kill you from inside?

Had the person been a little genuine in terms character and emotion, he/she would have thought thousand times before hurting you, no matter what compulsions they faced.

My point is if you have gone though a painful break up, just because your partner wanted it, I tell you if that partner comes back, nothing will be same again.

Your energies changed, realities changed, feelings changed and most importantly both of you change as PERSON, you no more remain the same. Then what is the point having the same person when the relationship will not remain same anymore.

If You have truly LOVED, LET that person GO, Wish All LUCK to Her/Him in life. TRUSTR ME…there is something called a HIGHER POWER, UNIVERSE. Your truthfulness & Honesty is recorded there. You will get the LOVE you Deserve. Often exes are sometimes a major distraction from the things which we truly deserve in life.

Remember as a Caterpillar You might be TRULY in Love with the Leaves, and it’s perfectly fine. But if you have gone through extreme pain of break up because of it, then you become a Butterfly, you are destined to be in a Garden of Flowers. So, as a Butterfly is there any point to go back to leaves?

Pian is an Alchemy which renovates us for better things.  There is a purpose, why a person becomes a present & then EX. The purpose of Your Ex is to cleanse you for better person. Accept it and Have Gratitude for your EX, but getting back her/him in life means knowingly getting into something bigger, in terms of pain.

I hope you understand my point!!!!

So, I feel, Ex-Partner – Never Entertain in Life Again. Especially if it is separation without a Closure.

Lord Krishna had to separate from his beloved Radha, but he had given his most favourite thing to her, His Flute…That’s is called the closure. that’s why their love has is considered the Greatest Love…. under the sky.

In LOVE there is Separation but not Break Up!!! Once someone becomes Ex Partner, means it’s past and our past is past for a reason. 

This is my post for Alphabet X written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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Valmiki The Sage – The Story of Transformation!!!

Valmiki The Sage – The Story of Transformation!!!

Valmiki The Sage – The Brahmashri – is the author of the Maha kavya The Ramayana which is also know as the Adi Kavya – The First Poem. It’s the Life Story of Lord Ram in Treta Yug!! He is a very prominent character from our Mythology

Valmiki The Sage – The Story of Transformation!!!

Our Mythology has innumerable stories loaded with life philosophies, values & motivations. From childhood, I feel everyone of us has been grown up with listening to such stories from different sources. I have been grown up with listening to such stories from my father.

The story of The Sage Valmiki has always been very fascinating for me. Because I could really imagine the picture in my mind. It’s one story that is still afresh as it is what I had heard first time. Another reason why this story always motivates me is we can change our destiny if we can change or transform ourselves. The Sage Valmiki was the transformed form of The Dacoit Ratnakar.

THE STORY OF THE SAGE VALMIKI!!!

Valmiki, in Sanskrit language it means anthill. It was not the birth name of the sage. His name was Ratnakar born to a rishi Prachetasa.

When he was young, he was lost in the jungle. A hunter found him and took him to his home. His new parents were quite loving, so he forgot his originality. Under his foster father’s guidance & care, he became an excellent hunter. Eventually he was married and had children. However, as his family grew larger, he felt that only hunting wasn’t enough to feed the family. So, he resorted to robbery and looted people in the village around.

One day The Mahamuni Narada was passing through the Jungle. Dashyu (Read Dacoit) Ratnakar attacked him for some valuables. Sage Narada instantly played his Veena & sang verses praising Lord Ram to calm down the anger of Ratnakar. It really worked. Ratnakar became very cool as he heard the music & verses, It had worked instantly.

Then the Sage asked him, “Why are you doing this?”

“For my family!” Ratnakar replied.

“Do you think the members of your family will also share the sin you are committing by this way of earning. You are attacking & looting people with your might.” Narada asked.

“Of Course, they will.” Ratnakar replied with confidence.

“Do one thing, you tie me here against a tree. Go and ask each of your family members. If they say yes, you come, I will be here only, waiting for your return. “

Dacoit Ratnakar thought it’s not a bad idea. He himself was curious also.  He did the same and went away to ask his family.

After couple of hours, he returned with shrunken face. It was evident that his family had refused to share the sins he was committing.

He untied The Sage Narada and asked him for the guidance to wash away of the evils he has already done.

Narada muni taught him the name “Rama” & asked him to mediatate on it. Since he was neck – dipped in sin, he couldn’t even chant RAMA. So Narada asked him to chant MARA continuously and left telling him do meditate by chanting till he returns.

Ratnakar did follow the instructions, sat and mediated for years. Eventually his body got completely covered with anthill. After some years, Mahamuni Narada came back, removed all the anthills, & said that his Tapashya Paid off. He is a transformed person now. He was bestowed with the title BRAHMASHRI and renamed VALMIKI – as he was reborn from the ant-hill.

After that we know how did he envision Lord Rama’s Life and wrote the Maha Kavya Ramayana. He also authored some other scriptures like Yoga Vashishtha – The Philosophy of life

The story ends here.

The moral of this story is no matter where life puts us, no matter what we have done so far, there is always scopes for New Beginning and a Self-Transformation.

We are accountable what we do in terms of actions or thoughts. Also, we are the one who can change ourselves. There is a Valmiki within every one of us.  There is a Sage in Us. We need to awaken it. Because there lies the PURPOSE OF OUR LIFE….the very reason why we have been given Human birth. So, let’s enlighten us from within!!!!

This is my post for Alphabet V written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter & Your Feelings Matter!!!

You Matter
And Your Feelings Matter
Your Voice Matters
Your Story Matters
Your Pain Matters
Your Happiness Matters
Your Success Matters
Your Failure Matters
You Are Important & Everything That Makes YOU…. Matter!!!
 

I am a self-claimed mental health activist. Because from a very tender age I have seen the how mentally stressed people suffer & make others suffer too. And I feel very intensely for those people who end their lives in an impulsive moment. I was very much disturbed when the news of actor Sushant Singh Rajpoot’s demise had surfaced.

I know this is a reality. We have people around who might be going through the same impulsive state. It doesn’t matter to what strata of society we belong to, in what profession we are in, what’s the gender…nothing matters because inside the brain, the network is same for all.

Suicide is always a permanent decision to deal with a temporary problem…. we all know that.
It’s a whimsical reaction to sudden a flush of strong emotions that makes the person edgy for that vulnerable moments.

Let me clear it, Depression isn’t the only reason for it. Because It’s not that every depressed person will commit suicide or everyone who is committing suicide is depressed but those who are in depression are vulnerable for sure.

It’s very difficult to understand a person having suicidal thoughts or behavior unless you have gone through the same. Trust me, I was having chronic suicidal thoughts. Can you believe it?? I agree it could be because of some traumatic childhood/upbringing things. Or may the reason be I am too sensitive. But every one has a very sensitive side. At least once in a life time every one goes though the life’s sulking experiences & become very vulnerable. But some people just don’t find it easy to digest it. They need help. And there where I feel we can step in and save lives.

As I say, I’m very sensitive & a small trigger to my emotions edges me to that state. I had tried to end my life couple of times also. But Thankfully, saved, narrowly escaped. It’s a confession…
However, Every time after I got that narrow escape, I felt, how stupid it was of me thinking of ending my life for the people, reasons or issues that bothered me a lot. In fact, after every escape I didn’t even find those things worth thinking for let alone dying for it. It’s just sheer STUPIDITY…I tell you.

But yes, I know what a person goes through just before committing suicide. Death appears easier than living. It gives tremendous courage to die, which in normal state we can never do. We fear death…right. But in THAT state, that FEAR just disappears for that moment. But later, everyone – except few who are unlucky to escape that moment – realizes that life is worth living for. Life is not just that “Particular Moment” but the countless moments we are suppose to live.

Now I am stable, I know very well how to live with it. I spoke to couple of my friends to understand why I feel that way, at first place.  I spoke to experts also. Took some professional help too. And then I realized, at the end the day, It’s ME matters for me more than anyone else.

I realized that accepting that I have some mental issues is the first step to deal with it. Mental health is a reality. And then I understood that it’s okay to sad & sensitive but never hurt ourselves.

At last, I feel the best thing is to talk about it. Sometimes, we just don’t find anyone to talk how we feel. For this, I feel we should avail ourselves for others in their most vulnerable moment. And I did the same.

So, if you are reading this, and you or anyone who you know, ever go through such sudden flush of strong emotions, then please connect with me. @tina_acharya.

It’s okay Life sucks at times.
It’s okay people who we trust betray us,
It’s okay we face issues, unfairness, wrong people, judgements.
It’s okay we make mistakes
It’s okay we don’t get what we want, what we deserve….

But it’s NOT okay to hurt ourselves, end our lives…A BIG NO! Because “YOU MATTER”

The best way to deal with such occasional emotions is to understand your own emotional states. Speak to someone when you feel the surge of those emotions. It works wonders.
No matter who you are, if you are reading this …feel free to talk to me or anyone else who you feel can understand your feeling…
Before taking a plunge to a permanent decision…. TALK ONCE…I know I can help YOU.TRUST ME

TRUST ME, I CAN HELP YOU…I AM THERE FOR YOU…Because I understand how it feels to be in THAT STATE.

This is my post for Alphabet Y written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

JUST LEAVE IT

 JUST LEAVE IT!!

Just Leave it, when it’s not in your hand
Just Leave it, when you know you can’t
Just Leave it, when you find yourself in a wrong tale
Just Leave it, when you know it gives you nothing but pain
Just Leave It, Just Leave It, & Trust Me
The Magic Will Happen as Things will settle of its own!!!

It was in the year 2011

We had relocation from Delhi to Mumbai. My new rented house in Mumbai was smaller than that of the fully furnished flat at Delhi. Not only undersized but also there was no storage space available in my new house.

So, when the packers’ people unloaded the consignment and asked for the space to keep the unpacked things, I had no idea how to allocate them. Nevertheless, some regular things like refrigerator, Television, sofa etc were unpacked immediately and took their respective allotted places. But a lot of boxes could not get unpacked due to non-availability of space.

Undecided, we finally had to keep them the other bedroom. And it was looking like that of a warehouse. A total mess.  I am a very sorted person. I just can’t be comfortable if things are not organized.  As expected, I was mentally very upset for this. I couldn’t free my mind. Every time I had a look in that room, I would feel very distressed. Clutter is something I really hate.

I felt as if the unorganized thing boxes) had occupied the whole space in my MIND. Every time I look at them, they were quite annoying. I kept thinking how to organize them. I was just unable to get them out of my mind. In fact, I was so stressed that I fall ill and became unwell for a week.

In those days my friend Rachna from Delhi called me up to know my whereabout. Whether we got settled or not. I told her how I was feeling. Then she told me, “Tina, Just Leave It, don’t think so much about it stressing your mind. Things will be fine with time.”

It was difficult not to think about it but there was no option also. I wasn’t physically well too. So, slowly I stopped thinking much about it that time.

Days passed. Then slowly I realized that I have to stop thinking about them completely. Because nothing could be done immediately. I had to stop worrying anyway. With every passing day I started accepting the mess, getting used it. When we resist, we feel difficulty in accepting. #Fact. So probably I had stopped resisting the reality. And it worked.

Later my husband and I decided to go for some storage furniture as per the requirement slowly but surely. Till then, we let it as it is”. I just leave it as it is!!! Later on, everything was fine and nicely accommodated. The boxes were unpacked & certain things were discarded. Rest of the things were kept well organized.

Today when I look at this incident though it appears as a very trivial yet I find it as an “piece” very tactfully scripted by The Universe to teach me a very good lesson. With this incident I understood that Life is like this. We have many things to do. But sometime we don’t have enough resources. At least in particular moments. Again, however smart we are…. we cannot do anything unless we have adequate resources for it…. right!!!

May be sometimes our resources in terms of money, emotion…etc are not sufficient to take care of our immediate need. Sometime this kind of situation arises for a temporary period and may be sometime permanently they remain as it is. However, whether it is temporary or permanent in nature… usually they lead us to keep worrying. Sometimes, in fact we worry because we expect too much out of a situation. External things happen leading to some kind of mess in our life.

But thing is, we need to accept it first, then accommodate and then sort it out, in whatever possible way.

Life is full of desires, dreams and responsibilities. Also, it has some short of missing things in terms of knowledge, time, education or finance. In short… there will be always a crash between requirements and resources. So, whenever there is a collision between requirements and resources it is better to simply “JUST LEAVE IT” and stop worrying about it. Things will take care of themselves. Cool your mind…after all we are not here to do everything at any time nor could we ever do it like that. Isn’t it??

JUST LEAVE IT….ALLOW IT TO SETTLE DOWN ON IT”S OWN!!!

This is my post for Alphabet J written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

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