Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves, around you, acknowledge their hard work & achievements.

One of my friends who is an eminent writer & a very composed persona in herself writes….

जिसे दूसरों की जश्न-ए-फतेह, ख़ुद की तरह मनाने की तालीम हो, उसकी रोज़ फ़तेह ही फ़तेह है! @ponderer_shashidip

We human beings are complex in our nature. Often it happens that we love to recognize the accomplishments of people around us only when everything is fine with us. Or we are doing good.  When things don’t work with us, we just either fail to congratulate or acknowledge but sometimes we feel bad & become sarcastic also.

Human psychology is like “when friend fail ho jata hai to bura lagta hai but agar friend top karta hai to to JYADA bura lagta hai”

I am not going to dig dipper into the psychological aspect of it & how to deal with it. The renowned psychologists are the best person to share their insights.

My observation is very simple. Co-existence of conflicting feelings is inevitable in everyone’s life. At our most miserable time, may be one of our close friends or relatives gets the highest accomplishments. Maybe we want to acknowledge, appreciate that, but deep down within us the feelings sadness strongly surface. Basically “Ambivalence, or having strong feelings in two opposing directions at once, can be a very stressful state,”

Now comes the reactions/response, which is very important to define how it goes ahead. Either we supress the internal feelings & appreciate others achievement or we become sarcastic or jealous or you know sometimes just become critical of it.  I don’t see merit on both the way.

I feel, life is a solitary journey. And time is always moving…which is an eternal truth. I learnt with the course of life that “It’s Just about My Life, My timings”.

I learnt to keep things apart. My friend is really accomplishing great heights is one thing. And my timing is not perfect is another. Even though things are happening at the same time, I keep them separate.

In the former case I feel happy, derive inspiration from my friends’ accomplishments, learn the tricks how he/she managed to do the required hard-works. Also,

 it motivates me in a positive way that things can really workout if someone is consistent & sincere.

On the later case, I accept my feelings, accept my timings

 

 & try to evaluate the reasons why things are not working out & look for changes that needs to be incorporated. Also, I learn to be patient & wait for my turn.

Also, I feel every happenings/occurrence in our 

immediate surrounding has something to tell us. Everything is live for me & I try to listen what exactly I being told by these events.

Trust me, it helped me process the emotions in easier way. I really feel happy within to Congratulate my friend. At the same time, I could hear a voice from within that your turn is just ahead…

So, Congratulate people, even when things miserable with us with true hearty feelings. It’s sometimes life’s test how you process Conflicting Emotions.

Time changes, so nothing is permanent in nature then how can bad times or good times be??!!

 

Congratulate People Even When Things are Not Working out for Ourselves!!!

This is my post for Alphabet C written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2021 by Blogchatter 

P For Playground of Paradise – Mo Gaon Danda!!!

No playground is as beautiful, as accommodating as Mo Gaon Danda….The frontyard of my village, It’s the Playground of Paradise – Mo Gaon Danda!!!
This morning when I opened Facebook It took me to the memories of this day, last year.
Last year this date I was at my hometown, my parental place, Aska, Odisha. It’s a small town cocooned in the greenery of nature. The lane where our home situated is a village though with time acquired all the modern amenities. In fact it’s not that typically described villages in textbooks…having huts and fields around with no facilities. In my village apart from no – huts in sights every second home owns a four wheeler, every home has 2 to 3 ACs, let alone other electronic gadgets and appliances. Life is not just beautiful here but very comfortable too.

THE SIGHT FROM MY HOME AT MY VILLAGE…..

The basic difference in city life and village life is, NOT LIFE BUT LIFESTYLE…Isn’t it?
I feel there are Ps that define the Lifestyle at Village
PERFECT PLACE – If you are in search of a life to live in harmony with nature Village is the Perfect Place. People have the whole lot for their minimum necessities of life. Nothing extra has to be done to meet your life’s requirement.
PEOPLE – People are simple, content and satisfied, far away from complexities.
POLLUTION FREE – The Villages are free from the hustle and bustle of a city life. Even though every home owns a vehicle that consumes fuels but their uses are minimum and they use them only when there is a genuine requirement. Moreover you can breathe fresh air because the natural green covers are still intact.
PHYSICAL WELL-BEING – In villages people are always provided with fresh fruit, vegetables, fish, water, and clear air so life is mostly hale and hearty. Peace, Pollution free air, Fresh vegetables and fruits, jostle free living…what else you need for a life of pink of health and best of spirit !!
PEACEFUL – The villages are mostly ruled by calmness. Even though lifestyle in villages is a community living but people prefer peace and tranquility in their individual lives.

The Playground of Paradise – Mo Gaon Danda!!!

Well I know…People leave villages for search of a better livelihood most of the times. But I feel it’s mostly for two reasons basically. One, there might be something terribly wrong happened in the villages like flood, drought etc taking away the means of their living which is always minimum.
Two and mostly it’s the dominant reason, the dream of a City Life, A Luxurious Life to be precise.
However, I know those who had a life rooted in a village or small city, now based in a City or metropolitan, must be missing that life. Somewhere feeling that they have done a very bad deal because they have bartered Simple and healthy Life with A Complex Luxurious Life. At least I feel so, may be differing with many.

Village Live Vs City Life…

Well, I love the life at my village though I make very few trips to it given to the compulsions of life. Last year I had been to it in April. One afternoon, while I was having my tea sitting at the verandah of my home, I saw these children playing around. I started observing….There were no particular rules for that game. It was like jumping and pulling the pamphlets hanging above….and whoever is successful getting one, even touching one, others would clap with laughter. So simple no… Do you need expensive gadgets, lavish sports equipment to get such simple pleasure! Or do you need a specially crafted playground to play…
 
We say it Gaon Danda (ଗାଁ ଦାନ୍ଡ) in Odia means the road that goes through the heart of the village. This Gaon Danda is a multipurpose place in villages actually. Apart from basic communications they also organized fairs, village dramas, theatres, processions of rituals, etc on it. It’s just like the Mother’s Lap….a place where everything you feel is positive, where you will just have pleasure and bliss…
Looking at the children and the whole landscape I just felt how lucky they were as unlike the children in big cities who just coming out of Mother’s lap have to walk on the roads, go to nurseries, learn and be skilled and programmed, they just play and learn life in the a place like mother’s lap coming out of their mother’s laps….
In Cities we have roads, In Villages, its Gaon dand, Mother Nature’s lap…
 
Those children were actually playing in the Playground of Paradise…I felt!!!
Maa ki god se khelte khelte siddhha gaon Mata ki God Mein…..
This is My Post for The Alphabet P  #AToZChallenge 2020 by @blogchatter in the Month of April 2020
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M For Masks!!!

Masks, Millions of Masks
We have wore time and again
Of Happiness, Joy, Anger or Pain
 
We born pure and innocent
Chaste and clean
Wearing a Face of an angelic beam
 
With life we are taught
To wear masks of many things
Good manners or etiquette
 
Life further taught us to wear masks
To cover our emotions
Of sadness or grief of the face
 
Million moments we have lived
With a mask on our countenance
To camouflage our reality, truths & facts
 
Millions of masks we changed
Over different moments of time
Making us lose the pure soul within
 
Often wisdom of scriptures teach us
To shed those masks
Of deceit, falsehood & pretense
 
Let’s shed those masks
Of disguise cast, concealing outfit
That has obscured, the inner light
 
However…Wait, Wait, Wait
We Know….
 
Often superheroes like
Batman, Spider man…wear masks
To hide their identity while doing noble tasks
 
Often a mask helps us veil
The pain of failure & heartbreak
And give us strength to trail
 
Often when life turns bit
Ugly and hostile
We wear a mask of pretentious smile
 
Often masks has helped us perform
Our Role in the Drama of Life
And follow its norms…
 
What I understood with Life & its process …
It’s not the mask but the reason
For which we wear it …matters
 
So friends…
 
Now the time is not for shedding the mask
But Wear one
Could be a N95, Surgical or Made in Home
 
Just Wear a Mask on your Face
To face the challenge and fight
The monster Corona Virus
 
It’s an Invisible Enemy
That’s with its spikes out there
To challenge the humans and their everyday affair
 
Mask is a simple weapon
Yet very efficient & potential arm
And the best strategy for this warfare…..

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We have Wear a Mask
Every Now and Then
To conceal our emotions
Happiness and Pain
Then why not now one
To save the Humanity From Corona….

WEAR A MASK….WHILE GO OUT!!!!

TO DEFEAT THE ENEMY CORONA VIRUS!!!!

Mask
A Mask is inevitable In Life Now and It’s Task!!

This is My Post for The Alphabet M  #AToZChallenge 2020 by @blogchatter in the Month of April 2020

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