Questions that Helped Me Unlearn Things

Questions that Helped Me Unlearn Things

Questions that Helped Me Unlearn Things

Questions that Helped Me Unlearn Things…sounds weird…right??Questions, ever since we born, have always been a constant companion of all of us, helping us learn things. I don’t think we ever learnt to question, but we questioned to learn things…isn’t it?

Questioning comes very naturally to human because of the attributes of curiosity. Well, with my life too questions helped me learn almost all aspects of my life…till the time that mundane da…

Life was all good & going. I knew I am doing good but somewhere there was a quest, an eternal quest in me…that often would make me like missing out something.  

The below p[poem I had written those day & posted in my other blog.

QUEST….

Queue of Questions often wink in my mind
At times as if I am searching answers for something
I couldn’t really find out what is it…so far
That often makes me ceaselessly hunt for
I know what matters to me most
My family and its happiness of course
My laughter is the result of their well-being
My tears roll out when they are in pain
I define myself strong and believable
My aspirations are adventurous & bold
I love the world and my existence in it
I dream and dare to chase till I get it
Nothing is really there which I don’t have
Still, I feel a presence of an inner void
Sometimes that makes me often lost in thoughts
As if I am chasing an unknown but eternal QUEST…

Then one fine day, something happened & I felt as if the earth slipped under my feet. I was broken to the core. I will not go in detail about it as we all had such phase in our lives.  The temple in me that I had made with the things I had learnt so far, seemed like dismantled & turned into debris.

It wasn’t easy to come to the turn…In Tarot its is called as Tower moment that brings a major upheaval in our life. Well, slowly I got up & stepped forward. I realized, that there are many things in life which I need to unlearn & the below questions popped up.

Thank God that questioning is an inherent attribute of all of us, a naturally skill basically…we don’t really need a special class to learn to question…. it’s our core competency.

The first question was

Who am I?

This simple question made me realized that we just need to find answers to this question & google is there for everything else.

The moment I reflected on it, it stripped down the name, the tags, the character that I was playing in my life, as a daughter, sister, mother, friend etc…& everything that I felt so far was defining me.  This simple question made me understand, what was that void, that eternal quest that had always been within me…I started searching myself.

The next question was…

Why do I seek social approval?

Again, this question helped me unlearn the fact that we need social approval to have an identity. Ever since we get our senses, we are taught how to fit into a society that we live in. Right! The dos & don’ts. We just edit ourselves as per the conditions of the society in our lives…isn’t it? In this process we lose our originality. I always feel, the moment we look to fit into something, our existence is trimmed. And when existence is at stake, there is bound to be a storm…to restore things once again.

Then I encountered the question

What is my worst fear?

And it made me unlearn that with resources we can secure our insecurities. It’s actually otherwise. The more we add physical or tangible resources the more insecure we become, the more fearful we become. Fear & insecurities are just states of mind. This question itself put me in the path of searching for myself, so that I would figure out what are my exact fears & insecurities.

The next question was

What do I really seek in my prayers?

Again, this question questioned my prayers literally? I started reflecting on the fact, do I really pray or do I beg? Prayer is like seeking divine assistance in life. But I think my prayers had become, “give me this, give that, give my family happiness, give my child good marks…blah blah blah” because I was taught, pray for it & you will get it. I unlearn that literally. I started expressing my gratitude for everything I have & have nots. There is a reason for everything we have or we haven’t.

And the most important question was

How deep I am connected to my heart?

Though I always claim to be a person guided by my heart, but that moment I felt, majority of times, I used my mind to fit into the circumstances than listening to my heart. My heart was full of aches.

Things became pretty clear to me. I needed healing. That’s the reason why certain things happen in our life. In that way we look inward. We understand, what’s become outdated, serving no more for our higher self. We need to unlearn them…. & the certain questions help us to figure out those learned things which has become no more relevant in our lives.

Questions that Helped Me Unlearn Things

This is my post for the Alphabet Q written for #BlogchatterA2Z Challenge 2023 by Blogchatter 

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